Ooh, you should. So much pretty, and some touching, too. And if you like Bowie/Jagger/Iggy Pop etc. you can view it as a huge word jumble.
Ooh, The Cure... Can't say I know them that well, but what I know - I really like.
Awwww, you're getting married! {} YAY!!1
I get the not identifying with the "gay" label - many reasons for that... I guess every person should choose whatever labels they feel fit, or no labels if they want to and can. Also, I don't believe that being attracted (?) to femininity and being feminine means you're gay/ a lesbian. There are more genders and identities than that. And i agree that it doesn't have to be a roadmap - though many times there isn't a lot of choice about that.
It's a complicated thing you bring up. I was raised, and believed for most of my life, that oppression is sort of something you get over. And I was, for many many year, a tough cookie, went wherever the fuck I wanted, did what I believed was right regardless of the cost, was always out, always willing to handle myself with men who thought my body was just available, and so forth. Got myself into some very dangerous situations, in hindsight, and I was tough and cool and way too often - fearless.
But the more I learn about it, the more I believe it's not so much up to the person who experiences oppression, and more about the world. As a genderqueer person, almost everyone I meet, ever, treats me and thinks about me in a gender that isn't mine. It's somewhat different from being gay (credit to GF for this distinction), because when people hate someone for being gay, most of the time they reaffirm their identity, and when people hate trans* people, most of the time they erase their identity. Which, as a person who experiences both - I seriously do not rec.
I do believe that the number of times a day, the number of different ways in which and so forth, a person has to face oppression, contributes to the drive to reclaim it and identify as whatever they're being oppressed of. Perhaps I'm wrong, hard to tell.
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Ooh, The Cure... Can't say I know them that well, but what I know - I really like.
Awwww, you're getting married! {}
YAY!!1
I get the not identifying with the "gay" label - many reasons for that...
I guess every person should choose whatever labels they feel fit, or no labels if they want to and can.
Also, I don't believe that being attracted (?) to femininity and being feminine means you're gay/ a lesbian. There are more genders and identities than that. And i agree that it doesn't have to be a roadmap - though many times there isn't a lot of choice about that.
It's a complicated thing you bring up. I was raised, and believed for most of my life, that oppression is sort of something you get over. And I was, for many many year, a tough cookie, went wherever the fuck I wanted, did what I believed was right regardless of the cost, was always out, always willing to handle myself with men who thought my body was just available, and so forth. Got myself into some very dangerous situations, in hindsight, and I was tough and cool and way too often - fearless.
But the more I learn about it, the more I believe it's not so much up to the person who experiences oppression, and more about the world. As a genderqueer person, almost everyone I meet, ever, treats me and thinks about me in a gender that isn't mine. It's somewhat different from being gay (credit to GF for this distinction), because when people hate someone for being gay, most of the time they reaffirm their identity, and when people hate trans* people, most of the time they erase their identity. Which, as a person who experiences both - I seriously do not rec.
I do believe that the number of times a day, the number of different ways in which and so forth, a person has to face oppression, contributes to the drive to reclaim it and identify as whatever they're being oppressed of. Perhaps I'm wrong, hard to tell.