I never think "oh, I had it hard"...but I did always feel a responsibility for taking care of my brother, I grew up knowing that this was just going to be part of my life. I'm sure there were times I really rebelled against it but...well...it is what it is. He's an amazing person, kind and generous and strong too funny enough, oh and the best dog sitter in the world. He lives on his own now and does great, thankfully I have such a wonderful wife with a big heart and a social work degree. She's usually much better at dealing with him than I am. I always want to regress back to big sister knows it all. His first choice is to call Wendy not me.

Our son is 18 now, just headed off to college this year. I wonder what he would say. It's funny now that he's in college he does realize how close the three of us are as a family. He's made some comments about that, that his friends are shocked to hear what an open and honest relationship we have. I think is direct quote was "my parents are so chill".