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citrusjavaSo, in NJcon, someone said they were bi, and asked the guys about the characters possibly being interpreted as bi. The room, and Tumblr (WHY did I try to rejoin Tumbler? :/), and sadly - Jensen, all made a face at the question as something the fan had no right to ask, should have known better etc.
I find this so hurtful. The only reason for treating this as so far from the realm of legitimate behavior is biphobia. Had they said "I'm in love with my boyfriend, tell me about the characters possibly being interpreted as in love with girls", it would have been considered sweet.
If, as the mighty Tumblr says, Jensen is uncomfortable with such questions, it's also not ok. I'd understand, had they been about him, but they're not. Regardless, the boys very often have to deal with questions they don't like, and usually do it pretty gracefully. If it's *that* hard for Jensen to deal with, fine. But not as an "it's wrong to talk about not being straight". As an "I'm sorry, I have some hangups, I'm trying to learn how to get over them". From there to everyone in the room, and on Tumbler, treating talking about our *life*, our love and so forth, as something that should be forbidden in fandom - fuck, this escapism thing isn't working that well. You know what? Season 8 Dean would have been kinder and more compassionate than that. More open minded. Dean. #@$%.
ETA: It's someone from a marginalized group telling you that something you do is meaningful to them, makes them feel like they could be just a little represented. Not as alone. It's *meaningful*. Because of that. It's a huge thing to do for a person. That very panel they talked so nicely about art being meaningful, and SPN as something that could give a person something to hold onto, to want to live. Do I really need to cite bisexual suicide statistics? Cause they're high, frightening high. This makes me so very sad.
I find this so hurtful. The only reason for treating this as so far from the realm of legitimate behavior is biphobia. Had they said "I'm in love with my boyfriend, tell me about the characters possibly being interpreted as in love with girls", it would have been considered sweet.
If, as the mighty Tumblr says, Jensen is uncomfortable with such questions, it's also not ok. I'd understand, had they been about him, but they're not. Regardless, the boys very often have to deal with questions they don't like, and usually do it pretty gracefully. If it's *that* hard for Jensen to deal with, fine. But not as an "it's wrong to talk about not being straight". As an "I'm sorry, I have some hangups, I'm trying to learn how to get over them". From there to everyone in the room, and on Tumbler, treating talking about our *life*, our love and so forth, as something that should be forbidden in fandom - fuck, this escapism thing isn't working that well. You know what? Season 8 Dean would have been kinder and more compassionate than that. More open minded. Dean. #@$%.
ETA: It's someone from a marginalized group telling you that something you do is meaningful to them, makes them feel like they could be just a little represented. Not as alone. It's *meaningful*. Because of that. It's a huge thing to do for a person. That very panel they talked so nicely about art being meaningful, and SPN as something that could give a person something to hold onto, to want to live. Do I really need to cite bisexual suicide statistics? Cause they're high, frightening high. This makes me so very sad.
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Date: 2013-05-06 03:04 am (UTC){hugs}
Thank you for the lovely, touching story. Thank you for posting it, and thank you for your bravery.
When it comes to Jensen - it does hurt me, but honestly, what you hint at, or something, I accept as a possibility. Whatever he has to deal with, is his.
OTOH, whatever the reason for being hurtful towards someone weaker than you - you still have. And it still made me cry. Cause I really need allies. If only fantasy ones.
But beyond Jensen - fandom :-(
I hope for better than that from fandom :-(