Kink Friending Meme

[citrusjava]

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I say it's time for a kink-based friending meme. People often travel across fandom and ship lines for a favorite kink. Talking about kinks is such a fun thing to do. Kinks can be so meaningful, deep, can be fun and simple, can bring so much joy. Why not friend based on that?

I hardly know anybody on LJ (though some of the people I know, I care a lot about).
So unless you spread the word, it's just gonna be me and my kinks. Which isn't that bad, actually. Tell everyone! Copy and paste the code in the box under one of the banners to your journal to spread the word. Below are some banners I made. If anybody feels like making better, more inclusive ones (more fandoms, more kinks, more sorts of people), that'd be cool, let me know and I'll add them to this post.

No kink-shaming, please.
And you don't have to feel obligated to answer all the questions.

Questions!
<b>General stuff you'd like to share</b> (name, location): <b>Other places you hang out</b> (DW, Tumblr etc): <b>Activity in fandom?</b> (lurking is an activity) <b>Fandoms</b>, if any: <b>Ships/gen</b>: <b>General interests</b>: <b>Some favorite kinks</b>: <b>Non-sexual kinks</b>: <b>Kink-related LJ activity you like</b> (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): <b>Guilty (or prideful) pleasure:</b> <b>What's usually on your journal?</b> <b>What do you look for in an LJ friend?</b> <b>Anything you'd like to add?</b>

ETA: Hey, I'm having a thought. I'm really enjoying the conversations here. I feel like opening a kink discussion group. For fun discussion of stuff we like, are curious about, getting inspired by other people's kinks, just all sorts of that.
Perhaps open posting as well as having a specific topic or question to play with every week. Is anyone interested?











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[citrusjava.livejournal.com]

Other places you hang out I'm on AO3, try to crosspost to DW, and am sort of vaguely on Tumblr, using the same nick.
Activity in fandom? Discussion and handwaving, some writing and podficing.

Fandoms: *Supernatural* and Supernatural RPF are my big fandom these days. Also like Buffy, Veronica Mars, Hedwig, some Doctor Who, Sherlock, and I'm thinking about venturing into Hockey RPS and Welcome to Night Vale. Hunter Thompson. Muppets.
Ships/gen: Dean/Sam, Jensen/Jared. Also love Cas/Sam, Cas/Sam/Dean, JDM and Misha as they come. Fond of Loki/Thor, Adina from Sorority Girls. Love complex female and trans/genderqueer characters, though don't ship them as much. I'm a slasher, mostly, but love a lot of gen, gen rocks.
General interests: writing, gender, rethinking sexuality and relationships, road trips, glam rock. Queer studies.

Some favorite kinks: Praise kink, shotgunning, crossdressing (all sorts of gender subversiveness). Soft, caring Doms. Strong subs, responsive subs, vulnerable subs. Play that goes deep. Discovering someone's kinks, how they work, where the buttons are, what makes it awesome. Experimenting with different sensations. Joyful sex. Attentiveness and care. Characters experimenting with their desires. Partners being supportive of that (though taking their needs into account too). Want, desperation, bondage, spanking, role playing. Innocence, wicked experience. I never cared about the sibling thing, with Sam and Dean, but now I associate it with their relationship, and with defending their relationship, so characters responding to is something I've got a bit of a thing for (like J2 role playing as Sam and Dean and getting off on it). I sometimes like strap-ons, prostate milking, ownership RP, nipple play, puppy play, come play, cock worship, tickling, outdoor sex/scenes, wrestling. Collars, leashes, sometimes in a public way. Playing with clothes/shoes/makeup/nail polish. Scratching, sucking. Crying. Body swapping, related curses (not too harmful). I like consent, it's big, though when it's dub-con and the issue is addressed in a serious, complex way, I usually like it a whole lot too.

Non-sexual kinks: Praise kink goes here too, even more. Cuddling, for sure. Vulnerability. That moment when a person cracks open (from either pov). Relationship/identity/kink negotiation. Safety. Libraries, books. The road, in a big way. New places. Subcultures. The sound fingers make when they brush metal guitar strings (IDK). Bikes, jeans, rock, the whole Dean Winchester season 1 thing. The Berlin Wall, Glam Rock in the early '70's, San Fransisco, Texas (yes, I get my information from pop culture, this is not about reality). Characters discovering they share kinks, characters discovering they don't share kinks. Characters standing strong with their kinks while facing oppression. Asexality. Characters reading fic. And fandom. I love fandom so much, definitely have a thing for people being passionate about fanfic and fandom.

Kink-related LJ activity you like: discussion, reading, writing, recording, listening.
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: Um... Bachelor Pad? I'd probably enjoy getting about an episode a day, if I could. At least fo a while.

What's usually on your journal? Some real life stuff, some fandom stuff (thoughts about characterization or general flailing), sometimes fic or podfic.
What do you look for in an LJ friend? Basically, people with shared interests (or not), who are respectful and care. I appreciate people who are open minded, compassionate and intelligent, and like having long discussions about shared interests (though short silly ones are awesome too). And people who might want to actually get to know each other, and care about each other are lovely. But just enjoying fandom or kinks together is definitely great.
Anything you'd like to add? I'm excited about this :) :)

[meesasometimes.livejournal.com]

I'd like add that your gif is a kink of mine, SERIOUSLY, watching him swallow, just shut up.

[citrusjava.livejournal.com]

That's awesome. It's two whole other kinks for me! It is so gorgeous. The way he leans into being held - the fondness (Jensen all the way), and his mouth opening for the glass, he is so sensual, looks like he was ready for the physical sensation of the glass, and when he didn't get it, there was want in there... So responsive.
Gugr. Love a responsive sub.

It's not my gif, I tried finding out who to credit but didn't, so I just link to the site.

[meesasometimes.livejournal.com]

and when he didn't get it, there was want in there... So responsive.

UH HUH...THIS TIMES 10000

why didn't we talk about the way he blinks? He is the most beautiful slow blinker I've ever seen

[citrusjava.livejournal.com]

Cause pretty flutter! And the emotion behind the blinking!

[applegeuse.livejournal.com]

I do believe we ought to be friends. :3 :3 :3

I love a lot of the things you've listed! Including the whole notion of people discovering and experimenting and becoming comfortable with their kinks. <3333333333

[citrusjava.livejournal.com]

You know, I was *just* gonna PM you and ask if you'd like to friend? :)

And yay, I love that you love that too :)

[dreamersdare.livejournal.com]

What is that gif? Where did it come from? Perhaps most importantly, why can't I stop staring at it?

Might I suggest that there is this slight hesitation, a few seconds of insecurity/trepidation/self-conciousness and then he just gives in to it, his eyes widen and his head goes back and I just...gah. Words fail me; I can't even articulate it.

[citrusjava.livejournal.com]

Mmm...

It's from a movie I haven't managed to watch to the end yet, called Devour.

[dreamersdare.livejournal.com]

Huh, I have seen that movie. Hell, I think I own that movie.

And yet I don't remember that scene at all. I may have to rewatch...

[citrusjava.livejournal.com]

I haven't, so I wouldn't know!