Kink Friending Meme
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I say it's time for a kink-based friending meme. People often travel across fandom and ship lines for a favorite kink. Talking about kinks is such a fun thing to do. Kinks can be so meaningful, deep, can be fun and simple, can bring so much joy. Why not friend based on that?
I hardly know anybody on LJ (though some of the people I know, I care a lot about).
So unless you spread the word, it's just gonna be me and my kinks. Which isn't that bad, actually. Tell everyone! Copy and paste the code in the box under one of the banners to your journal to spread the word. Below are some banners I made. If anybody feels like making better, more inclusive ones (more fandoms, more kinks, more sorts of people), that'd be cool, let me know and I'll add them to this post.
No kink-shaming, please.
And you don't have to feel obligated to answer all the questions.
Questions!
ETA: Hey, I'm having a thought. I'm really enjoying the conversations here. I feel like opening a kink discussion group. For fun discussion of stuff we like, are curious about, getting inspired by other people's kinks, just all sorts of that.
Perhaps open posting as well as having a specific topic or question to play with every week. Is anyone interested?










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Date: 2013-09-08 11:31 pm (UTC)Other places you hang out (DW, Tumblr etc): I'm on DW, Tumblr, and Ao3, annnnd here obviously lol
Activity in fandom? (lurking is an activity): *points* I do that I lurk... and I podfic, and I occassionally write... sometimes... if i can make my brain work like that...
Fandoms, if any: ... there is a list somewhere, I'm all about free love really, if they have hotness, and are sexing I'm there, sometimes even when they aren't hotness and they are sexing i'm there, FREE LOOOOOVVVVEEE... but the big ones are Avengers, HP, Merlin
Ships/gen: I love slash. give me two boys going at in any which way and I'll prolly read/record/swoon over it. *nods*
General interests: general interests outside of fandom??? um, I cross-stitch? I'm trying to learn how to knit, and I'm a full time mom.
Some favorite kinks: I don't have favorites really, seriously the free love thing it's applies to all of this, okay trying to think of kinks... ummmm bondage? ummmmm, orgies? ummm, god this is hard, I seriously will read any kink twice to make sure i enjoy or dislike it I really haven't found anything I wouldn't read soooo... yeah lol
Non-sexual kinks: cuddling!!!!! and I blame
Kink-related LJ activity you like (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): I haven't had much in the discussion way... but I love reading, looking at drawings, RECORDING, and occasionally writing
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: CROSSOVERS! seriously a guilty pleasure, that leads to like so many new fandoms for me...
What's usually on your journal? Podfics... and the occasional rant
What do you look for in an LJ friend? I just like having people to talk to... I miss having people in fandom to talk to :/
Anything you'd like to add? THIS IS AN AWESOME IDEA AND I HOPE IT GOES WELL!!! ^_^
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Date: 2013-09-09 04:24 pm (UTC)Yay!
And yay to cuddling, too!
I just like having people to talk to... I miss having people in fandom to talk to :/
Ugh. I know what you mean.
THIS IS AN AWESOME IDEA AND I HOPE IT GOES WELL!!! ^_^
<3
Thank you! Me too!
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Date: 2013-09-09 01:10 am (UTC)Activity in fandom? Discussion and handwaving, some writing and podficing.
Fandoms: *Supernatural* and Supernatural RPF are my big fandom these days. Also like Buffy, Veronica Mars, Hedwig, some Doctor Who, Sherlock, and I'm thinking about venturing into Hockey RPS and Welcome to Night Vale. Hunter Thompson. Muppets.
Ships/gen: Dean/Sam, Jensen/Jared. Also love Cas/Sam, Cas/Sam/Dean, JDM and Misha as they come. Fond of Loki/Thor, Adina from Sorority Girls. Love complex female and trans/genderqueer characters, though don't ship them as much. I'm a slasher, mostly, but love a lot of gen, gen rocks.
General interests: writing, gender, rethinking sexuality and relationships, road trips, glam rock. Queer studies.
Some favorite kinks: Praise kink, shotgunning, crossdressing (all sorts of gender subversiveness). Soft, caring Doms. Strong subs, responsive subs, vulnerable subs. Play that goes deep. Discovering someone's kinks, how they work, where the buttons are, what makes it awesome. Experimenting with different sensations. Joyful sex. Attentiveness and care. Characters experimenting with their desires. Partners being supportive of that (though taking their needs into account too). Want, desperation, bondage, spanking, role playing. Innocence, wicked experience. I never cared about the sibling thing, with Sam and Dean, but now I associate it with their relationship, and with defending their relationship, so characters responding to is something I've got a bit of a thing for (like J2 role playing as Sam and Dean and getting off on it). I sometimes like strap-ons, prostate milking, ownership RP, nipple play, puppy play, come play, cock worship, tickling, outdoor sex/scenes, wrestling. Collars, leashes, sometimes in a public way. Playing with clothes/shoes/makeup/nail polish. Scratching, sucking. Crying. Body swapping, related curses (not too harmful). I like consent, it's big, though when it's dub-con and the issue is addressed in a serious, complex way, I usually like it a whole lot too.
Non-sexual kinks: Praise kink goes here too, even more. Cuddling, for sure. Vulnerability. That moment when a person cracks open (from either pov). Relationship/identity/kink negotiation. Safety. Libraries, books. The road, in a big way. New places. Subcultures. The sound fingers make when they brush metal guitar strings (IDK). Bikes, jeans, rock, the whole Dean Winchester season 1 thing. The Berlin Wall, Glam Rock in the early '70's, San Fransisco, Texas (yes, I get my information from pop culture, this is not about reality). Characters discovering they share kinks, characters discovering they don't share kinks. Characters standing strong with their kinks while facing oppression. Asexality. Characters reading fic. And fandom. I love fandom so much, definitely have a thing for people being passionate about fanfic and fandom.
Kink-related LJ activity you like: discussion, reading, writing, recording, listening.
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: Um... Bachelor Pad? I'd probably enjoy getting about an episode a day, if I could. At least fo a while.
What's usually on your journal? Some real life stuff, some fandom stuff (thoughts about characterization or general flailing), sometimes fic or podfic.
What do you look for in an LJ friend? Basically, people with shared interests (or not), who are respectful and care. I appreciate people who are open minded, compassionate and intelligent, and like having long discussions about shared interests (though short silly ones are awesome too). And people who might want to actually get to know each other, and care about each other are lovely. But just enjoying fandom or kinks together is definitely great.
Anything you'd like to add? I'm excited about this :) :)
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Date: 2013-09-09 02:12 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 03:07 pm (UTC)Gugr. Love a responsive sub.
It's not my gif, I tried finding out who to credit but didn't, so I just link to the site.
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Date: 2013-09-09 03:46 pm (UTC)UH HUH...THIS TIMES 10000
why didn't we talk about the way he blinks? He is the most beautiful slow blinker I've ever seen
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Date: 2013-09-09 03:51 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 02:36 pm (UTC)I love a lot of the things you've listed! Including the whole notion of people discovering and experimenting and becoming comfortable with their kinks. <3333333333
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Date: 2013-09-09 02:51 pm (UTC)And yay, I love that you love that too :)
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:21 pm (UTC)Might I suggest that there is this slight hesitation, a few seconds of insecurity/trepidation/self-conciousness and then he just gives in to it, his eyes widen and his head goes back and I just...gah. Words fail me; I can't even articulate it.
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:28 pm (UTC)It's from a movie I haven't managed to watch to the end yet, called Devour.
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:34 pm (UTC)And yet I don't remember that scene at all. I may have to rewatch...
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:40 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 01:13 am (UTC)Other places you hang out: pinterest. i used to spend a lot of time on tumblr but i lost interest.
Activity in fandom? i don't know, honestly! i've written a few bleach pornfics for anonymous kink memes, if that counts.
Fandoms: see, when i hear "fandom" i think of severely hardcore fans, and i'm really not like that. i like stuff, but i don't know if i count as a fanperson. i like a lot of manga (and sometimes anime), i guess that might be as close as i get to fandoms lol.
Ships/gen: i'm not much of a shipper!
General interests: fun, adventure, driving, yoga, archery, sewing, art, writing, cartoons, dogs, bugs, food, weird & creepy stuff.
Some favorite kinks: i'm pretty open, and generally i'll go with the flow lol. i do particularly enjoy: hot wax, pretending to be gay men (i'm a lesbian), various forms of roleplay, toys are fun. things i haven't done but am quite interested in: bondage, sex with 3+ participants.
Non-sexual kinks: hmmm musical innuendo? like when someone gets turned on by someone playing a musical instrument, because they've got limber fingers and passion, ya know? dirty bare feet. brushing/braiding hair. glasses. spooning. are these really nonsexual? haha sometimes it's a close call.
Kink-related LJ activity you like: anonymous kink memes.
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: anonymous kink memes. haha sorry for repetitivity!
What's usually on your journal? stuff about my life. stuff about my perception of the universe. pictures. nonsexual memes.
What do you look for in an LJ friend? fun people, weird people, awesome people, friendly people.
Anything you'd like to add? hey new friend
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Date: 2013-09-09 05:29 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 05:43 pm (UTC)For m, there's a lot of correlation between what I like in fic and in RL, though I haven't tried all the things I like in fic (there's PLENTY), and in real life I'm more concerned about safety and consent.
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Date: 2013-09-09 06:04 pm (UTC)YES.
glasses
How could I have forgotten glasses?!
are these really nonsexual? haha sometimes it's a close call.
I often feel that way too :)
*waves back* Hey!
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:32 pm (UTC)also i love the way they look on other people, ghaaaa.
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 03:23 am (UTC)Other places you hang out (DW, Tumblr etc): Skype, tumblr, twitter
Activity in fandom? (lurking is an activity) Lurking, collecting, chatting, drooling (lol)
Fandoms, if any: TVXQ/JYJ (all 5 members, any combo), ShadowHunter Chronicles (movie and books by Cassandra Clare), Doctor Who...are my main ones atm, but I dabble in a lot of fandoms
Ships/gen: TVXQ OT5, Will/Jem/Tessa, Malec, Doctor/River
General interests: yaoi, real person slash, reading, writing, drawing
Some favorite kinks: bdsm, tentacles, orgies
Non-sexual kinks: love
Kink-related LJ activity you like (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): reading, writing
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: nothing beyond the already stated
What's usually on your journal? mixture of fandom and regular life stuff, my fics are posted to a separate lj comm that you're welcome to join too (
What do you look for in an LJ friend? Common interests, understanding, posting and commenting at least occasionally
Anything you'd like to add?
*waves*
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Date: 2013-09-09 05:52 pm (UTC)Your gif rocks, is fantastic.
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Date: 2013-09-10 05:34 am (UTC)Thank you ^__^
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Date: 2013-09-10 09:04 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 02:09 pm (UTC)Other places you hang out :I go to AO3 when I need to fill my Kindle lol otherwise I'm a daily lj girl
Activity in fandom? : I like to read and stay caught up on fic, scour the Supernatural Newsletter like it's relevant to the world, which it is, MY world.
Sometimes I throw out a little podfic, and listen to a lot of it, I've even been know to dabble in the art side, it's more design than art but whatever. And nobody
loves a fanmix like I do, I mean my teenage years were the decade of the mix tape so yeah. AND I will stare at pics of Jensen Ackles for hours, there is no
shame in that.
Fandoms, if any: SUPERNATURAL
Ships/gen: I ship Sam/Dean and I'm an almost equal opportunity J2 shipper, almost equal. I'm still thrilled to read Dean/Jo if anyone so cares to
write it for me. Dean/Benny made me happy, very happy. I'm pretty sure me saying I love souless!Sam/Dean or boyking!Sam/Dean is just beating a dead
horse. You get the gist.
General interests: poetry, music, talking about my new car (66 Impala), sewing, swimming in the ocean and pretending I'm a mermaid or a whale.
Seriously, that is what I did yesterday happily.
Some favorite kinks:puppyplay, ponyplay, shaving, shotgunning, spanking,I'm currently fascinated with balls, I know there is someone in fandom to
blame for that....knotting...there is no kink that I'm not willing to give credence to :) MANHANDLING and Gun play.
Non-sexual kinks: writing on each other, the brown hoodie, LAUNDRY and the smell of Tide
Kink-related LJ activity you like (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): ALL OF THEM... I think I have an open kinky 30_snapshots prompt
table I'm supposed to be working on. I might need to revisit that. http://meesasometimes.livejournal.com/tag/30_snapshots
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure:I love chocolate, I miss coffee, I'd like to suck a shot of espresso out of Jensen Ackles navel and then lick chocolate syrup off his
cock. That's a WISHFUL THINKING GUILTY PLEASURE.
What's usually on your journal? stuff, often relates to Dean or Jensen in my daily life, sometimes personal stuff but mostly fandom, maybe a meme or 2
What do you look for in an LJ friend? someone who posts and comments, I am always ready to add someone and get to know their fandom loves and life
if they want to share. I'm not "offended" by someone with a different OTP than I have.
Anything you'd like to add? if anything I've said here is offputting, we simply were not meant to be ;P
Somehow I managed to forget GUM CHEWING!!!!! That is just unacceptable. Please Jensen, NEVER STOP CHOMPING ON THAT GUM!
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Date: 2013-09-09 03:43 pm (UTC)Yeah! I stopped following the news, decided it was making me too miserable and scared, and it didn't help anyone that I followed it (activism I do). Much rather follow things that make me happy and that I have a chance to influence.
I love your activity list.
OMG, you have a vintage impala. I've developed a kink for those, for sure. Fandom :)
Mmm
What color is it?
swimming in the ocean and pretending I'm a mermaid or a whale
<3
Puppyplay, shotgunning, yeah! Ooh, I love manhandling, too! And ponyplay I should look into. Hee, gum! :D
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Date: 2013-09-09 04:03 pm (UTC)Her name is "the ghost", and she's white but not transparent....ghost on the highway, and I'll love you forever...-Mazzy Star
OMG, go directly to pony play....ummmm let me link you ...http://sultanspride.livejournal.com/2504.html.
You will thank me for that. ;)
He makes love to that gum, maybe it's just the idea that something is in his mouth and he's pushing it around with his tongue and then his jaw is working and clenching....oh god, just stop me, this is the kind of madness you will witness often if you friend me.
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Date: 2013-09-09 04:18 pm (UTC)OMG, go directly to pony play....ummmm let me link you ...http://sultanspride.livejournal.com/2504.html.
You will thank me for that. ;)
Mmm, thank you!
I probably will! :-D
Gum - I like the way it works people's throats and jaws, and I like the cheekiness of it, sometimes.
If? Too late for that, tsk tsk tsk
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:33 pm (UTC)I concur :)
I also concur on the gum chewing and shotgunning. I find myself constanty quoting Clueless when it comes to this: "Anything that draws attention to your (his) mouth is good!" :)
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Date: 2013-09-09 10:51 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2013-09-09 08:41 pm (UTC)cock.
You know I LOVE you, right?
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Date: 2013-09-09 10:49 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-09-09 06:37 pm (UTC)Other places you hang out (DW, Tumblr etc): I have a fic journal on LJ under
Activity in fandom? I lurk a lot and generally hang around the peripheries of fandom. I tend to be bad at commenting and slow at replying (the curse of a busy life - although I do always reply eventually) but I do try my best. Oh and, obviously, I write :)
Fandoms Supernatural, Supernatural RPF, Bandom, Hawaii Five-0, Firefly, Stargate Universe, Sherlock, Grimm, True Blood, Suits, Prison Break. Some I have written in, some I have only read so far (there are probably more than that as well but that's what I can think of off the top of my head)
Ships/gen Any/All :D I'll try most any pariing at least once and largely, it's more about whether the characters are well portrayed for me - if I can believe in the relationship, I don't really mind who is in it. If the plot catches me, gen is all good as well.
General interests Hiking (I post about this a lot), music and gigging, social policy, my tv shows. Work and university also dominate a lot of my time but I try not to bore people with those too often.
Some favorite kinks: Um, powerplay, size disparity, bondage, dirty talk, orgasm delay/denial. Consent issues are a big thing for me as well - I write them a lot, as I often write dark or fucked up versions of characters, and obviously at that point consent issues abound. Those are some of my favourites; I'm trying to think if there's anything I can't/haven't got into at some point...and largely coming up blank.
Non-sexual kinks: Characters gone darkside (which can be sexual or not), pet names/nicknames, oral fixation (smoking, gum, drinking - anything that draws attention to people's mouths is gooooooood)
Kink-related LJ activity you like: Discussion is good, writing is good, reading is good, I wish I could draw (but am always up for discussion of interesting pics), not a big fan of podficcing (although all power to those that do it)
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: That stuff up there? I'm not sure what to put in here :D
What's usually on your journal? Rambly update posts that appear at undetermined intervals and contain some mish-mash of discussion around things I have been doing and shows I have been watching, as well as the occasional graphics and memes
What do you look for in an LJ friend? Maturity? Fandom wank is one of the reasons I lurk.
Anything you'd like to add? I'm in the UK and as am I technofail, I don't DL my show, which means I'm always behind. On that point, spoilers outside of a cut make me cry. If your journal is spoilertastic in ways that I can't avoid, it's just not going to work out between us :)
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Date: 2013-09-09 07:41 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2013-09-09 10:41 pm (UTC)OK I'm at your masterlist. There is evil!Sam and PrisonBreak threesome porn...I'm in heaven.
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Date: 2013-09-11 06:02 pm (UTC)Ahaha, well hopefully heaven lives up to your expectations, hon, and you actually enjoy them :)
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Date: 2013-09-09 08:36 pm (UTC)Other places you hang out (DW, Tumblr etc): LJ only really. I do have twitter and facebook but hardly ever use them.
Activity in fandom? (lurking is an activity): Fandom is my HAPPPPY place and I'm very active with (daily) posting and commenting.
Fandoms, if any: SUPERNATURAL & SUPERNATURAL RPF.
Ships/gen: Dean/Sam, Jared/Jensen, Jensen/JDM, Dean/Benny, Dean/Lisa -- Sam/Dean and the Js are my main OTP though.
General interests: Music, swimming, my tv shows, my volunteer work, hanging out with the g-friends, theatre and movies.
Some favorite kinks: Hoooo boy! here goes, lol: Slash all the way, J2 or Wincest powerplay, threesomes, fingering, coming untouched, barebacking, a/b/o, knotting, shotgunning, nippleplay, feminization, double penetration, somnophilia, size kink, lap sex, face-fucking, rimming, fingering, MANHANDLING, hair pulling, underage, age difference, fucked up power dynamics of any sort (doctor/patient, teacher/student, mob-boss/consort etc.), prison!fic, dark!fic, pornstar!fic, mafia!fic, rough sex, first time sex, creature!fic, competence!porn, tattoos, DIRTY TALK, feral boys, asshole!jensen, codependant fucked-up-ness, enthusiastic messy bjs, facefucking, shaving, gagging/choking on cock, dubcon, rape fantasy roleplay, ballplay, ponyplay, puppyplay, gum smacking! I totally blame my girl M for this! lol :P
Non-sexual kinks: ICE CREAM, Indian food and mango lassies.
Kink-related LJ activity you like (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): Reading and a bit of discussion.
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: mpreg.
What's usually on your journal? Mostly Dean and Sam and Jensen and Jared gif/picspams, bts/on set gif/picspams, fic recs, porny m/m gif/picspams, episode reactions, random (rl) stuff.
What do you look for in an LJ friend? Someone who posts and comments, I really enjoy an active LJ friend! Also, FUN, open-minded, compassionate, and caring people. And folks who are just as craaazy passionate abt my fandom (and my filthy mind lol :P) as I am!
Anything you'd like to add? I absolutely hate (fandom) wank of any kind, please don't bring that into my journal.
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Date: 2013-09-09 08:52 pm (UTC)coming untouched, dirty talk, hair pulling, enthusiastic messy bjs yay !
What's competence!porn (if you feel like explaining)?
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Date: 2013-09-09 09:04 pm (UTC)I find competent, knowledgeable and intelligent people extremely sexy in fic and in RL!
Also! HAPPPPPY BIRTHDAY!
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Date: 2013-09-09 09:14 pm (UTC)I find competent, knowledgeable and intelligent people extremely sexy in fic and in RL!
Ooh, yeah, definitely. And I get why you like J2 and Dean and Sam. Thanks for the explanation!
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Date: 2013-09-09 10:36 pm (UTC)gagging/choking on cock ...hell yeah, I should have put that on my list XD I just try to weed people by throwing ponyplay out first :P
gum smacking! I totally blame my girl M for this! *innocent eyes*
just so you know girl, I'm REALLY passionate about your filthy mind<3
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Date: 2013-09-09 10:50 pm (UTC)WHERE IS ALL THE PONYPLAY??? people do not write it anymore *sadface*
You're just my best girl and I ♥ you madly ♥
ALSO, you absolutely HAVE to devour everthing
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Date: 2013-09-11 03:20 am (UTC)Activity in fandom? I write fic, and occasionally meta, and obsessively discuss Suprnatural with my LJ friends.
Fandoms, if any: The only fandom I'm active in on LJ right now is Supernatural--I tend to be fandom monogamous that way. But I'm also a fan of way too many other things to list here, including: Babylon Five, Battlestar Galactica, Oz, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Luther, Hannibal, Homicide, The X-Files, Twin Peaks, The Wire, Justified, Doctor Who, Sherlock, Orphan Black, Game of Thrones, and the entire Whedonverse. Bookwise: Douglas Adams, Kurt Vonnegut, Joseph Heller, Ursula K. LeGuin, Margaret Atwood, Jeannette Winterson, Graham Greene, Charles Dickens, Medieval/Renaissance lit in general.
Ships/gen: In Spn I'm a huge multishipper--Dean/Cas, Sam/Cas, Sam/Dean, Sam/Dean/Cas, Sam/Ruby, Dean/Alastair, and Sam/Kevin (sort of?); outside of SPN some of my favorites are: Beecher/Keller (Oz), Delenn/Lennier (Babylon 5), and Alice/Luther (Luther--but it's mostly a platonic ship)
General interests: There are interests outside of fandom? I'm a nerd about history in general and European Medieval/Renaissance history in particular. And I love discussing politics, religion, and sexuality.
Some favorite kinks: knifeplay, profound trust, bondage, consentacles, praise, aftercare, hair pulling (especially Sam's), shotgunning, Stockholm Syndrome, edge play, gun play, sexual obsession, struggling to stay quiet, oral fixation, especially when mixed with hand porn/finger sucking, D/s and BDSM where the participants are equal outside the bedroom, characters negotiating scenes, Gray-asexuality, someone being ashamed of a kink and then reassured.
Non-sexual kinks: I'm a hurt/comfort fiend. The more extreme the better. I love cuddling fic too.
Kink-related LJ activity you like (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): At least some of my fic reflects my kinks, and I always love discussing them.
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: SPN kink meme; anything with emo vampires
What's usually on your journal? Mostly fic, along with a few SPN episode discussions or other meta, and occasional whining about a WIP.
What do you look for in an LJ friend? Someone to have a good discussion with.
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Date: 2013-09-11 11:19 am (UTC)Your kink list makes me happy :)
Fuck yeah, profound trust, bondage, consentacles, praise, aftercare, hair pulling (especially Sam's), shotgunning, Stockholm Syndrome, struggling to stay quiet, oral fixation, finger sucking, D/s and BDSM where the participants are equal outside the bedroom, characters negotiating scenes, Gray-asexuality, and someone being ashamed of a kink and then reassured! :)
We should talk some time ;)
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Date: 2013-09-12 10:40 pm (UTC)And another Oz fan! The manipulative, dark, obsessive love affair between Beecher and Keller really pushed my buttons, and Meloni was great. I'm kind of sorry he got stranded on SVU for the past decade--I feel like he's capable of so much more. You know, Oz was such a big fandom when I was super into it in high school, and now it's all but forgotten. I'll be so sad when SPN meets the same fate.
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Date: 2013-09-13 08:18 am (UTC)Exactly! ;)
(otoh, it's a nice coincidence, perhaps)
Oz!
I'm kind of sorry he got stranded on SVU for the past decade--I feel like he's capable of so much more
YES! I kinda try to be happy for him that he has a job and gets to act and all that - but that role is so boring compared to what he can do, pity he's not doing better things. Like the HBO incest-is-canon Supernatural I read a bunch of fic about.
I'll be so sad when SPN meets the same fate
Ahhh! Why go there...?
Yeah, it's totally (well... no) break my heart to see the boys apart and in roles that didn't bring out the way they can shine.
Ow.
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Date: 2013-09-12 03:15 am (UTC)General stuff you'd like to share
Other places you hang out (DW, Tumblr etc): Dreamwidth (same name), fetlife (same name), twitter
Activity in fandom? meta, occasional fiction, reading, enabling, attending conventions
Fandoms: Gosh. Right now the only thing I'm watching is Teen Wolf. I'm also reading in Avengers. But I'm pretty willing to give pretty much anything a go (and I started watching a lot of the shows that are around these days... but broke up with them for various reasons)
Ships/gen: I love anyone getting it one with any other number of other beings or robots or ships or evil inanimate objects. Bring it.
General interests: Intersectionality and social justice
Some favorite kinks: fisting. biting. the sexy kind of hair pulling. punching. kicking. Solid impact play without implements. Okay, so implements are fun, too, but I've really been trending toward play without a toybag the last few years. Okay, so caning is also fun. Repression and artificial constraints where you are voluntarily forcing your own compliance
Non-sexual kinks: what is this non-sexual related land of which you speak? Reading the newspaper can be sexual, if you do it with intent.
Kink-related LJ activity you like (discussion, reading, writing, drawing, recording etc.): I read. Oh, and I taught a kink class at
Guilty (or prideful) pleasure: Pleasure for its own sake
What's usually on your journal? Anything. From my grocery list to talking about my neighbors to politics to intimate sexual questions to fanfiction
What do you look for in an LJ friend? I'd like an opt-in filter or cut tags for your angst and insecurity. To which I won't opt in because we just met each other. But you should totally have livejournal as a place to write anything you want.
Anything you'd like to add? I like a bit of playfulness to your approach to fandom. And kink.