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I should explain, about my triggers
May. 3rd, 2014 09:26 pmHey,
So, I've been mentioning triggers for a while now, but I haven't clearly explained where I am, and I probably should. I should start by saying this isn't a response to a particular interaction - I just - I've had several related interactions in the past few days, and really I haven't ever explained where I stand on this, how I experience it, and what I need, for whoever may be willing to give it - and just, in general - it's just responsible to explain...
OK. So, I have three main triggers - issues or illness and health, death, and animals suffering. Discussion of those topics - even just seeing a vaguely related word or images - can mean hours of not being able to function, for me. Just - experiencing anxieties and waiting for that to stop. Sometimes it's shorter. Sometimes longer. I often can't eat, drink, write, would rather not communicate. In more serious cases (depending on the severity of the trigger, how much energy I have and how I feel coming into that, in my life), this can last, or partially last for days, in extreme cases, longer. And then I need to find ways to function after all, which leads to more anxieties ... it's hard.
I very much appreciate not being exposed to those topics.
When possible, cut tags or any other "spoiler treatment", can be wonderful and very much appreciated (even if I can't handle expressing that at that time...).
Regardless, if you do bring them up around me or toward me - this can very easily be read as if I don't care about people. Particularly since these are often related to needing empathy - and instead I tend to go cold.
In these situations, I generally need to not discuss not discussing the topic either, pro bably to not discuss anything else in that message or post or whatever.
Please, please understand that if you tell me about something like that and I don't reply (or don't reply to anything else either), it's because I can't. I treasure people wanting to share with me personal things, I really do. But I can't take this, I am so sorry, I just can't. Tell me about relationships, perversions, identity, I want to be there... tell me about issues of consent - I care...
So, I've been mentioning triggers for a while now, but I haven't clearly explained where I am, and I probably should. I should start by saying this isn't a response to a particular interaction - I just - I've had several related interactions in the past few days, and really I haven't ever explained where I stand on this, how I experience it, and what I need, for whoever may be willing to give it - and just, in general - it's just responsible to explain...
OK. So, I have three main triggers - issues or illness and health, death, and animals suffering. Discussion of those topics - even just seeing a vaguely related word or images - can mean hours of not being able to function, for me. Just - experiencing anxieties and waiting for that to stop. Sometimes it's shorter. Sometimes longer. I often can't eat, drink, write, would rather not communicate. In more serious cases (depending on the severity of the trigger, how much energy I have and how I feel coming into that, in my life), this can last, or partially last for days, in extreme cases, longer. And then I need to find ways to function after all, which leads to more anxieties ... it's hard.
I very much appreciate not being exposed to those topics.
When possible, cut tags or any other "spoiler treatment", can be wonderful and very much appreciated (even if I can't handle expressing that at that time...).
Regardless, if you do bring them up around me or toward me - this can very easily be read as if I don't care about people. Particularly since these are often related to needing empathy - and instead I tend to go cold.
In these situations, I generally need to not discuss not discussing the topic either, pro bably to not discuss anything else in that message or post or whatever.
Please, please understand that if you tell me about something like that and I don't reply (or don't reply to anything else either), it's because I can't. I treasure people wanting to share with me personal things, I really do. But I can't take this, I am so sorry, I just can't. Tell me about relationships, perversions, identity, I want to be there... tell me about issues of consent - I care...
